Fri, 2011-06-10 14:27
Alicia Keys and Fantasia Barrino are just two celebrities who’ve admitted to close relationships with married men who were separated.
While Alicia has said that she and now-husband Swizz Beatz didn’t start anything romantic until after things were over with his former wife, there’s still some uncertainty as to whether he was officially separated when their relationship began.
In the case of Fantasia, it’s public knowledge that her beau was married. Unlike Alicia, she didn’t end up with a ring on it when things were all said and done. Instead, the broken relationship left Fantasia broken and nearly suicidal.
Regardless of the exact circumstances or outcome, is it OK to date a man who’s legally still married? Won’t love wait until after the divorce is final, or is it antiquated and unnecessary to wait until the ink dries?
What do you think? Have you or would you date a man who says his marriage is over, but who is still someone’s husband?
Wed, 2011-10-05 08:59
#1
I think I'll do this, but
I think I'll do this, but only if he loves me. RCA ieftin
Mon, 2011-09-05 14:29
#2
Not in this lifetime, do I want or desire someone else's man
The question "Is it Ok " well, I guess what is considered ok is relative...I'm say this if your a chick who wants nothing more from the guy than material items, and he is conveniently available then sure it will be ok for you.If your a female who "loves" him and he and you have made "plans in conversation" about how it will work out between the two of you, then it will be "ok" for you. I really believe in Karma and certain rules for myself now, before I didn't care about how other women would feel, so I carried myself that way like "f!c# her, she isn't my friend". I haven't felt that way in yearrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrsssssssssss. So, b/c I now look at others as my sister, whether I know her or not. I respect her, even if she doesn't like me, I respect her as my sister, not cause I have to. I choose too. My mindset would be like if a guy disrespects one chick to be with another, why do you the 2nd female think he will not turn right around and do the same thing to you? I think it is an absolute turn-off if a guy even gives me an "eye" while with another female or if I know he has a girlfriend. It's just not cool! Nor is it an ego booster... Blah...I've been celibate for almost four years now, since my kids dad. So, it's not like I date either. But even when I'm out at community events, or working on different projects. What uplifts my soul is to see TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER WHO LOVE EACH OTHER AND SHOW RESPECT to each other! Naw, someone else's man is not a compliment to any female, but I do understand sometimes things happen.
Fri, 2011-06-17 16:07
#3
The feeling isn't always gone
Sometimes being separated is just that, time apart. So I personally would wait until the divorce was final, just because the feeling between the two might not necessarily be gone. What if she's the one who filed for separation...You don't know that. Also, I feel like there's something going on if people are filing for that instead of divorce. If you don't wanna be with that person, then just get a divorce. Why drag it out. so yea, wait til it's over because when it all falls down you're going to look like the bad guy no matter what if you don't.
Mon, 2011-06-13 14:40
#4
Wait Til It's Official
I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a married man who's separated. I mean, I know he would be "over" his wife, but it's just plain messy. It's best to just wait til it's official and he is no longer legally bound to another person.